According to the Oxford English Dictionary, perfectionism is:
“A refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.
Philosophy; a doctrine holding that religious, moral, social, or political perfection is attainable, especially the theory that human moral or spiritual perfection should be or has been attained.”
Sometimes, I am a bit of a perfectionist.
I want to do everything the right way.
Sometimes, my internal monologue goes “Lora, that sucked.”
Or sometimes, my internal monologue goes “Lora, that was ok, but you know you can do better next time.”
And sometimes, it’s all “what the heck was that Lora? What was with this, this, this, and this other thing, and that thing, and, etc. etc. etc.”
Or someone will pay me a compliment. I will smile and say thank you. But in my head I’ll be all like… OOOOH that’s nice of them… But don’t they know that xyz is off or that I should have done THIS instead?
My brain goes into overdrive and thinks of all sorts of ways in which I could be better at something. Ways in which I could be more perfect.
And I know I’m not alone. What does the voice in your head tell you?
They say that approximately 95% of the thoughts you have today, you had yesterday.
So if those thoughts are always telling you “You suck” or “you aren’t good enough,” what kind of impact do you think that will have on your life? That’s right a sucky one.
Let me tell you something. Yes, it’s okay to be a little bit of perfectionist. And sometimes, it’s a handy dandy trait when used constructively. (Don’t you want your surgeon to be a perfectionist? Lots of times, it’s a good thing.) But the quest to always be perfect is not helpful. In fact, it’s NOT NECESSARY. We can never be “perfect.”
Because guess what?
You don’t have to be perfect. I don’t have to be perfect. We are GOOD ENOUGH already, just as we are!! We are perfect in the moment. Wherever we are is just where we need to be. And that spot, that feeling, that outfit, that work project, that run, that yoga pose, that WHATEVER IT IS, is good enough and JUST RIGHT for the moment you are in.
Try your best, always try your best. But then…sit back and be happy with wherever you are.
STOP the voice in your head that says “you aren’t good enough.” STOP the nit-picking. Yes, it’s okay to learn from your mistakes, but be HAPPY with where you are and, egads, for how far you have come in life!
Every single day you are JUST RIGHT for that day.
YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH.
Don’t let that voice in your head tell you otherwise!!!
And if you are feeling like you need a little push, I recommend banana bread.
I’ve recently become a fan of the blog My New Roots and adapted her “coziest” banana bread.
Good Enough Banana-Nut Bread (Vegan)
- 1/4 cup almond milk (If you don’t care if it’s vegan, you can use cow’s milk)
- 3 tablespoons olive oil
- 3 tablespoons coconut oil
- 6 tablespoons maple syrup (I actually used maple syrup and a touch of agave nectar because I ran out of maple syrup…good or bad, agave was what I had.)
- 1 teaspoon pure vanilla extract
- 5 mashed ripe bananas
- 2 cups whole wheat flour (or spelt flour)
- 1 teaspoon baking soda
- 1 teaspoon baking powder
- 1/2 teaspoon sea salt
- 1/4 cup sesame seeds
- 3/4 cup chopped nuts (I used a mix of walnuts and pecans)
1. Preheat oven to 350.
2. Lightly grease a loaf pan.
3. Using a blender, combine almond milk, oil, maple syrup, vanilla, and bananas. Blend until thoroughly mixed.
4. In a large bowl, mix banana blend with flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt. Combine with as few strokes as possible.
5. Add nuts and seeds.
6. Bake in over for minimum of 30 minutes. Mine took approximately 45 minutes to cook. Check after thirty and bake until a toothpick inserted into the center comes out clean.
7. Let cool, slice, and serve with a side of self-love.