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When frustration hits, KEEP GOING!

One of my runner friends always says, “one more mile, one more smile.” And I love that mantra.

Because it is so easy for us to stop. To stop smiling. To stop pushing ahead. To give up.

And the moments when you want to give up? Those are the very moments when you need to keep going. To keep pushing ahead.

It can be h-a-a-a-a-a-a-r-d.

But we have to keep racing forward. Even if it’s the turtle’s “slow and steady wins the race.”

We get all excited about new things in our life, discoveries, change, business ventures, moves, relationships, etc.

They are always so super awesome at the beginning and you tell everybody OMG OMG OMG how cool is this?!? WOOOOOAHHH. This is AMAZING!

And then reality kicks in.

Things aren’t moving fast enough for you.

Cue FRUSTRATION.

When the frustration phase hits, you can feel like you’ve hit a brick wall. Suddenly, you’re creativity seems ZAPPED. Or you discover all these “flaws” with your new lover or pick a fight for no reason. Or you just feel like you’ve somehow jumped into a sea of abyss and are totally overwhelmed and don’t know what to do. Or you started your new business and after the initial excitement and joy, now the hard work kicks in and things just don’t seem to be moving fast enough.

This is all normal.

And guess what? THIS IS THE START OF THE REAL MAGIC.

The frustration, the anger, the despair, the confusion, the fear, the annoyance, the generally feeling overwhelmed. These things are NORMAL.

The moment you want to quit is PRECISELY the moment when you need to plow ahead.

The moment when you feel like you’ve got a case of the “I can’t do this,” is the very moment when you need to KEEP GOING.

ONE MORE MILE, ONE MORE SMILE. Even if you can’t imagine smiling. πŸ˜‰ Or finding the finish line. KEEP GOING.

KEEP GOING!!!!

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Here are three ways you can help push through the frustration and turn the frustration into a powerful tool!

1) Communicate

Talk it out to someone. If your frustration is about a new relationship, TALK to your partner about the frustration–don’t ignore it or just hastily break up. If your frustration is about business—do you have a friend in your industry that you can talk to? Do you know someone who has been here before? Find a mentor. About to dive off the diet deep end and feel like your fitness goals are falling? Can you join a group either digital or online? Find a gym buddy? Hire a personal trainer or private instructor? Find a way to COMMUNICATE with others who may currently share or HAVE shared your frustrations. Talk about where your struggling and why. Don’t try to hide your frustrations under the rug. Don’t just give up and end up back at square 1. You can do it.

Most importantly, communicate with YOURSELF.Β  I have a great post on being your own cheerleader. Read it and follow the suggestions I give. When you’re feeling frustrated it is a great time to analyze your self-talk and #passlove to you. If self-love is hard for you, my friend Ashleigh has a GREAT post on loving yourself on her blog Passion for Life, Love, and Health. I highly recommend you check it out.

2) Baby Steps

Break the problem/life challenge/everything down into smaller steps. What can you IMMEDIATELY do that is small and manageable? Even if it is just one small task, is there something you can do to help you move forward? Maybe it is going for a 10 minute walk if that’s all the fitness time you have today, maybe it is calling to renegotiate your APR rate if you are tackling financial issues, or maybe it is sending out one more email or making one more call to try and sell your product/manuscript/etc. What small thing can you do, right now, that will help you inch closer to your goal?

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And remember, even if you don’t feel confident taking this baby step because you are overwhelmed, frustrated, cranky, whatever, FAKE IT ‘TILL YOU MAKE IT. You’ll feel more confident in YOU and less frustrated when you believe in YOU and the actions you’re taking. Put on that smile for another mile. Soon you’ll be smiling for real!! You see the photo up above? I am totally faking it. I am faking it in about half the race photos ever taken of me. Sure, I am smiling. I’m smiling in EVERY PHOTO. (Seriously!) But oftentimes that smile is forced. That smile is there because I know I will keep going faster, happier, and break through the wish to stop or wondering WHERE IS THE ENDING if I just keep smiling. Fake it ’till you make it. Trust me, smiling is contagious.Β  Pretend to be confident and soon you WILL be confident. πŸ™‚

3) Pray or Meditate

In fact, my mentor Mastin Kipp has an amazing meditation to “turn frustration into power.” It’s free. It’s 15 minutes. It’s a game-changer.Β  Check it out here.

BONUS: SLEEP SLEEP SLEEP

You can be amazed how a good night of QUALITY sleep can have you feel clearer and more refreshed in the morning.

What are your tips to keep going and moving forward, in spite of frustration? What are your old habits for handling these emotions and how can you transform them in the future?

ONE MORE MILE, ONE MORE SMILE.

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Comments:

  • Becky

    June 12, 2014 at 8:05 am

    Wow, I absolutely needed this post today. I’ve been feeling all kinds of frustration and have wanted to quit many times. But I won’t! Thank you for this post. It gave me the extra push I needed today πŸ™‚

  • Stacey Merrill

    June 12, 2014 at 11:04 pm

    So true – esp the sleep part

  • Ashleigh

    June 16, 2014 at 6:00 am

    1. Thank you so much for linking to my post! I’m quite far behind in my blog reading, so I’m sorry it’s taken me so long to express my gratitude. But here it is! πŸ˜€
    2. I love that mantra that your runner friend has! I’ve never heard it before, but I totally think I’m going to use it now.
    3. I needed to read this post today. I hit a major bump in my weight loss journey recently, and I feel like everything is falling apart. Things are in so much upheaval that I didn’t even write my weekly update post this weekend like I usually do. I don’t even want to face the music and admit that I’m struggling as much as I am. I haven’t started turning things around yet, so for all intents and purposes I have “quit” living a healthy lifestyle for the time being. So needless to say, the section immediately above the beach picture really spoke to me. Sooo anyways, thank you for this post. πŸ™‚