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Ask for help


It’s not cheating to have help. To ask for help. To use a block.

I’m always amazed how, in so many of my yoga classes, despite my gentle insistence that props are good, that taking the easier variation may be appropriate for your body, how many people refuse the props. They grit their teeth. They struggle in the posture. They are not in tune with their bodies or their potential. And I have to watch them struggle, helpless to try and improve the situation…because they do not want to accept my assistance.

They mistakenly think that having help –such as even just using a prop (as I am doing above in half-moon pose)–is cheating. They have rewired their brains to think that assistance is a flaw. That if you can’t do it full, there’s no point. Heaven forbid taking an easier variation of the pose for the time being. And it saddens me. Because sometimes… Sometimes we need to have help.

You don’t have to go it alone.

Props are there for you in yoga classes. There are blocks, bolsters, blankets, straps, wedges…not to mention countless variations of every pose imaginable. And teachers willing to guide you into the best and most comfortable pose for your body.

The same is true for life.

Struggling alone doesn’t make you a better person.

When you are going through something, or challenged, it’s the very time to ask for help. From loved ones, from co-workers, from friends, from coaches, from Internet support groups, your therapist, minister, you name it. But you need to allow for that person to help you.

Success is entirely dependent on your willingness to acknowledge where you are currently. To be okay with where you are. And then to ask for assistance to get to where you want to go.

It’s not all up to you.

You don’t have to go from point a to z overnight. You do not walk without learning to crawl. You can’t become a concert pianist overnight. Life, growth, change…takes time.Β  And, little by little, you can get there.Β  Find your yoga props, your friends, your training coach, to help you with the steering wheels. To help guide you in the right direction. Maybe you hire a maid to free up cleaning time at home. Maybe you take out a loan. Maybe you hire an assistant at work. Maybe you ask for an easier version of the pose you’re in.

It doesn’t mean you’re giving up if you have to ask for help. It means you are giving in. Giving in to your strengths AND weaknesses. Giving in to self-awareness. Giving in to a wish to grow and improve. Giving in to love of yourself–and love for those around you.

Because we can’t be there for others if we can’t be there for ourselves.

So learn to take the block. Pick up the strap. Ask for help from a teacher. Ease the struggling. Talk to friends. Let said friends help you.

You don’t have to struggle to succeed.

Relax a little. Lean back. Lean on someone else for a little bit. That’s okay. It’s not failure.

It’s winning.

What do you think?

Let me know in the comments below!




  • Montana Ross

    December 2, 2014 at 6:48 pm

    Wow I really wish I’d seen this earlier! Half Moon Pose and I have a love hate relationship because I feel so out of balance when I do it without the block, but I try so hard not to use a block and work on balancing without it! I’m glad I read this…I tend to be an over-achiever and try to do everything fully without help. In all areas of life. I need to work on that.