It’s okay to be soft
In today’s world, we constantly have to be strong, assertive, powerful.
And those can be great traits. Important traits. Traits necessary to excel in business, for safety, and for just keeping up in these busy times.
But we also need to be soft.
To let things be.
It’s okay to be soft y’all!
- I love bubble baths.
- I love white wine and champagne.
- I eat too much chocolate.
- I love to have a massage.
- I like to paint (though I’m really bad at it).
- I love journaling.
- I like to cook and bake.
- Restorative yoga is my jam.
- I love to listen to jazz music and songs that awaken my heart.
- I have dance parties of one in my house.
- I love to sing in my car for no reason.
- I can’t get enough of long walks.
- I eat slowly, so that I can enjoy the food more.
- I love fashion because I love to study all the different pieces and have fun putting them all together.
- Smiling is one of my favorite things to do.
- I laugh every day.
- I weep in sad movies.
- I try to savor each and every moment of life.
The list could go on and on. These traits don’t make me feminine, although by standard societal definitions, that may be the case.
These things keep me soft. They keep me vulnerable. They keep me loving. They keep me me.
Do not think it is weakness to slow down. To literally stop and smell the flowers. To go for a long walk for no reason. To bake cookies just because baking cookies can be a meditation in motion for you. (Plus, you know: bonus of getting to eat cookies when you’re done!)
In a world that is so fast past, so assertive, with so much emphasis on STRENGTH. Do not be afraid to embrace the delicate. To be gentle with yourself and others. To find ease and grace in life.
There’s nothing like a long bath with a glass of wine listening to beautiful music. It’s slow. It’s lovely. It’s quiet time to recharge and get back to me.
We spend so much of life engaging our “flight or fight” response (the sympathetic nervous system.) We are constantly alert. Constantly pushing. Constantly “on.”
It’s important to get clued into the parasympathetic nervous system–aka rest and digest. That’s where relaxation lives.
We need to slow down. We need to soften. We need to allow our bodies to embrace more passive and less active actions.
Even more important is to recognize when you need some extra TLC.
Creative pursuits, cooking, yoga, massages, aromatherapy, smiling, laughing, walking, long hugs! These things can all help trigger your parasympathetic nervous system and calm your flight or fight response.
Embrace all of life.
It’s not weakness to be soft, it’s actually strength. Some of the best moments in life come when you are the most vulnerable!
How will you slow down today?