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It’s okay to be soft

In today’s world, we constantly have to be strong, assertive, powerful.

And those can be great traits. Important traits. Traits necessary to excel in business, for safety, and for just keeping up in these busy times.

But we also need to be soft.

To relax.

To let things be.

It’s okay to be soft y’all!




  • I love bubble baths.
  • I love white wine and champagne.
  • I eat too much chocolate.
  • I love to have a massage.
  • I like to paint (though I’m really bad at it).
  • I love journaling.
  • I like to cook and bake.
  • Restorative yoga is my jam.
  • I love to listen to jazz music and songs that awaken my heart.
  • I have dance parties of one in my house.
  • I love to sing in my car for no reason.
  • I can’t get enough of long walks.
  • I eat slowly, so that I can enjoy the food more.
  • I love fashion because I love to study all the different pieces and have fun putting them all together.
  • Smiling is one of my favorite things to do.
  • I laugh every day.
  • I weep in sad movies.
  • I try to savor each and every moment of life.

The list could go on and on. These traits don’t make me feminine, although by standard societal definitions, that may be the case.

These things keep me soft. They keep me vulnerable. They keep me loving. They keep me me.


Do not think it is weakness to slow down. To literally stop and smell the flowers. To go for a long walk for no reason. To bake cookies just because baking cookies can be a meditation in motion for you. (Plus, you know: bonus of getting to eat cookies when you’re done!)

In a world that is so fast past, so assertive, with so much emphasis on STRENGTH. Do not be afraid to embrace the delicate. To be gentle with yourself and others. To find ease and grace in life.

There’s nothing like a long bath with a glass of wine listening to beautiful music. It’s slow. It’s lovely. It’s quiet time to recharge and get back to me.

We spend so much of life engaging our “flight or fight” response (the sympathetic nervous system.) We are constantly alert. Constantly pushing. Constantly “on.”

It’s important to get clued into the parasympathetic nervous system–aka rest and digest. That’s where relaxation lives.


We need to slow down. We need to soften. We need to allow our bodies to embrace more passive and less active actions.

Even more important is to recognize when you need some extra TLC.

Creative pursuits, cooking, yoga, massages, aromatherapy, smiling, laughing, walking, long hugs! These things can all help trigger your parasympathetic nervous system and calm your flight or fight response.


Be soft.

Be delicate.

Be loving.

Be patient.

Be kind.

Embrace all of life.

With feeling.


It’s not weakness to be soft, it’s actually strength. Some of the best moments in life come when you are the most vulnerable!

How will you slow down today?




  • Jessica Spivey

    March 18, 2015 at 1:24 pm

    Beautifully written! I always slow down after my kiddos are in bed – either a bath or cup of hot tea! I also love to sit outside on our back porch and let the little one play in her sand box!

  • Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine

    March 18, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    Yes! We all need to be soft at times. We shouldn’t be “scared” to show our gentle side. It’s really a beautiful thing.

  • Run DMT

    March 18, 2015 at 3:24 pm

    I simply love this post! You are so right. I tease myself calling myself a slacker mom for not doing so much as other moms running here and there. But it’s so important to just chill too.

  • Alexandria

    March 18, 2015 at 3:40 pm

    Love this! I like to slow down by laying in bed for story time with my girls even if it’s in the middle of the afternoon! Driving makes me slow down too. Sometimes when the kids fall asleep in the car, I like to just drive around sipping on coffee. It’s a wonderful weird thing! Haha

  • Betsy

    March 18, 2015 at 4:43 pm

    Love this! I think it is important that we have both a soft side and a tough side. It keeps us well rounded and helps us to adapt to any situation.

  • Kat

    March 18, 2015 at 8:44 pm

    I treat each morning shower as a mini spa session. I savor the scents and textures of my beloved Lush products. It’s my time to indulge in my femininity before heading into whatever the day has in store.

  • Rachel

    March 18, 2015 at 8:59 pm

    I love this! It’s easy to forget to stop, relax, and do the things we truly enjoy. Thanks for the reminder!

  • Running Betty

    March 18, 2015 at 11:27 pm

    Thank you. I try to savor as well