This is my tough gal face:
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We all need a tough girl face.
You’ve got it in you.
And you need to know when to use it.
But that can be hard to do.
Sometimes we need a reminder. A reminder to stand up for what is right, to be brave, to be authentic, and to know when to fight the good fight.
I want everyone to like me. I want to practice compassion and kindness. But sometimes everyone WON’T like me. Sometimes the path to compassion in kindness and self-love comes with a few people NOT liking you. Because in order to make THEM like you, I’d first have to stop liking myself.
And that’s not worth it.
Sometimes liking yourself and practicing kindness and compassion means you need to STAND UP. You need to get angry. You need to demand respect. You need to be assertive. You need to know what is right and go after it!
Being strong doesn’t mean you can’t also be soft. That you can’t also be extremely caring, compassionate, loving, and acting from a place of love.
But as healers, as yogis, as compassionate individuals–we sometimes can edge too far. We can be too kind, too lenient, too forgiving, too generous, too, too, too.
And sometimes, you need to be tough. You need to stand up. The kind thing to do can BE to get angry, to demand your worth, to know your value, to tell someone if they are treating you (or someone else) improperly, and to, from a place of groundedness and heart-centeredness, demand the respect/value/kindness/what have you that you deserve. But you need to approach the situation from a place of love, of logic, and of compassion. No matter how you may be treated, always respond by first taking a deep breath, checking in with you, and then speaking the truth.
Even if you are treated cruelly, stay kind.
Even if you feel annoyed, stay compassionate.
Even if you are angry, remain grounded.
Never say something you wouldn’t want on the front page of the New York Times. Or blasted all over the Internet or Television.
Think before you speak. Be considerate. Be caring.
But don’t let others walk all over you. Don’t let yourself be bullied or mistreated because you are kind, because you are a yogi, because you believe the best in people.
Sometimes we need to step up. We need to stand up. And we need to tell people that YES! I am worth it and you need to treat me fairly.
Don’t be afraid to speak up.
Don’t be afraid to know what’s right and to go after it.
Don’t be afraid to know your worth, know your values, and stick to your personal morals.
Because if you don’t. Who will?