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Find And Use Your Authentic Voice!!

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Are you using your real voice?

In your blog posts, your coaching, your teaching, your social media, your everyday life?

Are you speaking, writing and sharing from a place of authenticity, from your soul, from, well, YOU?

Or are you playing a part?

Are you writing in a way that you THINK a blogger should write?

Are you teaching yoga in a way that you THINK yoga teachers should teach?

Are you talking in business meetings in a way that you THINK is the way successful people should talk in meetings?

Are you tweeting, instagramming, facebooking, snap chatting, and engaging socially in the way you THINK the most popular influencers should post?

Wait about in your relationships? How are you talking to your spouse, on dates, to your family, your friends, your children? Are you presenting the real you in your tone of voice, your choice of words, your laughter, your diction–or are you Eliza Doolittle-ing it up and saying what you think should be said in the way it should be said?

It comes down to this…

Are you speaking, writing, posting, and sharing your authentic self with the world from the heart, from the present moment, and from a place of pure clarity? Or are you stuck in your head, in fear, and spending the time trying to be someone else and trying to play a role?

What is YOU? Are you saying YOU?

I’m guilty. I’ve done it. I can tell you I have spent YEARS. YEARS! Not speaking in my real voice in person. At work. To my family. On dates. I wanted so badly to be what I thought was expected. What I thought would make people like me. What I thought was cool, etc. etc. etc.

It didn’t work.

You know that sleazy salesman stereotype? We all see them, especially with social businesses and so forth. You can feel the desperation. The need for a sale. The trying-to-hard. You can feel it coming at you from a mile away–even in a 140 character tweet.

When you pretend. When you try to be someone you aren’t. When you teach your yoga classes using what you think is the proper “yoga voice.” When you write your blog posts based off a formula that supposedly guarantees success. When you are not authentic.

It shows through.

No matter how hard you try. No matter how many people you think you’ve fooled.
Eventually, it shows through.

So why pretend? Why go through life speaking in a false voice? Use your words. Use your tone. Use your silence when silence is needed. Listen. And act from your center. Speak from your center.

Let go the worry and nagging thoughts in your head. Let go of the expecations of how you’ve been told that xyz will get you the most Instagram likes, or using this SEO pattern will get your article all the hits.

Let it all go!

And dive into your real you.

Before you hit send, ask–is this me? Would I want this on the front page of the New York Times? Is this the way I’d want to be remembered at my funeral, what I would want to be known for? Is this me? Or does it feel…off?

And if it feels off. If your writing feels false. If the words you are about to say feel inauthentic or fake.

Wait.

Don’t say that. Speak from the place of confusion, of uncomfortableness, of whatever it is you are really feeling at that moment. Whatever is the real you.

And let that fly.

One of my favorite movies is a 1998 comedy called Little VoiceIn the film the main character is a chronically shy girl named LV. She’s a recluse with a wispy voice. Afraid to live, afraid to adventure outside of her comfort zone.  But it turns out LV has a most amazing singing voice when she mimics the old singers from her late father’s albums at night–Judy Garland, Marilyn Monroe, etc.  At first, she rises to success when her hidden mimicry talents are discovered. Ultimately, however, LV only finds true happiness and shining by finding her own voice and her own true self.  The greats were there to lead a helping hand, but ultimately LV could only thrive by finding her authentic voice.

Are you hiding your talents, your true you, your authenticity? Is there a bigger you, a truer you, a more YOU YOU waiting to come out?

How are you speaking throughout your life? Is it you? Is it real? Is it honest?

Or are you just pretending? Are you like LV and either a) hiding from the world or b) trying to mimic the greats?

What happens when you just do you?

Let me know how this post resonates with you. I want to hear your opinions! Leave your thoughts in the comments below and I promise I will reply.

xoxox,

Lora

Comments:

  • Rebecca @ Strength and Sunshine

    July 15, 2015 at 5:16 pm

    Yes!!! Don;t try to be something you not and suffocate YOU!

  • Alexandria @ Al2getherFIT

    July 15, 2015 at 5:19 pm

    I was thinking about this today while I was writing. I think the posts that I write in the mornings or late at night reflect my authentic self. If I try to get a blog post up sometime in the middle of the day, I think it All sounds forced or fake. So usually on those days (yesterday) I just don’t post anything at all 🙂

  • Amanda

    July 15, 2015 at 8:15 pm

    Such a good reminder! It’s so easy to act how we think we should to impress or fit in. I’m totally guilty of doing that sometimes. I’m a true introvert at heart.. But people at wok always see the pleasant/excited/positive person.. And every once in awhile I snap a bit because I just want to be alone. That sounds so dumb typed out. But it happens. I was in training all week, and someone asked if they could sit with me at lunch the one day. I sort if stared at them for a moment then was like, “Uh, sure. But I probably won’t be talking. I want to read.” Oops. The guy walked away and later (when I felt recharged), I apologized. Sorry for such a long response 🙂

  • GiGi Eats

    July 15, 2015 at 11:08 pm

    I do me all day, every day. And you know what? I am the happiest person on the face of the planet because I do not have to pretend to be someone I am not. In fact, no one HAS TO do that. NO ONE!

  • Cassi

    July 17, 2015 at 8:24 pm

    I always try to be my authentic self…. My self may change from time to time though.