How to handle crazy negative energy people
Have you ever been in yoga class when….
The entire class is full.
The class has started.
And then that person with crazy negative energy comes in late.
And decides that the best place to put his or her mat down is right next do you.
They look at you. They STARE at you. Until you move your mat, get ridiculously close to the neighbor on your right side and squeeze over to make room for the latecomer.
It’s like they have a radar and can zoom in on who the nicest person is in the room. They knew I would move. I’d feel guilty *not* to move.
But oh boy oh boy, was it a decision I regretted….Until I turned it into a learning love moment.
All through class. This latecomer with the negative energy. It was a rogue yogi. I’m talking on full on negative energy, ignoring everything the teacher instructed, and just making her own yoga practice–the rest of us be damned. This was the type of student who felt the entire class’s experience should be about her. She did handstands instead of warrior 1. She did handstands instead of three-legged downward dog. She did handstands instead of vinyasas. She did handstands instead of chair pose. And then she huffed and puffed until I thought she would blow the yoga studio down.
And I felt so overwhelmed. I was in this intermediate yoga class to have a guided practice. To relax. To be lead. And then I had this crazy person going all yoga porn next to me. (I mean, we’re talking throwing in extra boat poses when we are supposed to be in bridge before final savasana. No yin to the yang in any way shape or form….and her alignment made me SO SO SCARED she would get hurt!) Her breathing, her fever pitch, her complete approach and energy…it was driving me bat sh*t crazy.
And then I called upon my teaching. I decided to make this a learning moment.
And I just silently said to her “girl, I bless you.”
And throughout class, no matter what craziness she was doing, no matter how out of sync her breathing was (or when she WAS not breathing), no matter how many arm balances she threw in out of nowhere or how many times she ignored the instructor, no matter the tornado of negativity forming next to me, I stayed calm, I stayed kind, I stayed present. Because I said a silent, “I bless you, I love you.” Over and over.
The class became a meditation in motion for compassion. Inhale: “I bless you.” Exhale: “I love you.”
Did I feel angry and frustrated to be next to her? Darn tootin’! Was I alone? No, I could tell that everyone else around us was also annoyed and felt the negative energy.
But I did my best to shift that energy. I sent her love. Because what I was seeing in her was a direct reflection of an aspect of me I don’t like. I don’t like it when I’m not present. I don’t like it when I’m the Big Bad Wolf. I don’t like it when I’m in my head and not present to what’s happening around me. I hate feeling that way. Because it reminds me of a time when I wasn’t so calm, wasn’t so happy, wasn’t so present in the world around me.
And I’m just further along the journey than that negative energy latecomer yoga lady with all the cray cray yoga poses, breathing and self-imposed bubble.
Instead of wishing she hadn’t come to class, I blessed her for coming to class. Because I could send her healing energy. I could send her love and light. And I could raise the vibration for everyone else practicing around us. I could choose to feel love instead. (Click to Tweet.)
And I did.
I blessed her throughout class. And you bet your bottom dollar I blessed her immediately after savasana and for the rest of the day.
And now, as I write this post weeks later, I am still blessing her and sending her loving energy. In fact, let’s all send her ALLLS the love.
Because she’s not wrong. She’s not the Big Bad Wolf of yoga class. She’s just on a different level right now. And all we can do is send her love, healing, and recognize that we have the power over our own emotions and energy. We could choose to have her bring us down, or we could choose to life us all up.
I chose lifting.
I chose loving.
I bless you crazy yoga lady. I bless you. I am sending you love.
What would you do in an instance like this?