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It’s okay to ask for help

This weekend found me stuck on the floor.

Literally, I, a yoga teacher and endurance athlete, could not move. I’ve been having problems, but this was the tip of the iceberg.

I was in the worst pain I have been in other than when I was in a severe car accident.

Something in my back went out and was inย agony. So much pain. I couldn’t talk without crying and I couldn’t even move.

I kept thinking, this has GOT to get better.

And it only got worse.

I tried to take care of things. I thought “oh I’ll be okay.” I thought I could fix it myself.


It got worse. And worse. And then….

I realized I couldn’t do it myself. I had to get help. I couldn’t walk, couldn’t turn my head…I *definitely* could not drive.

And I had to ask everyone I knew who was able to assist.

And it was scary. It was hard. It did not come naturally to me.

I’m always there to assist others, I’ll do anything for the people I care about. But I will forget to look after myself.

As I lay on the floor for hours in horrible pain, I realized (what others may already know) that, YES IT IS OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP!!



As much as being in agony sucked. I think I needed to have the pain. I needed to put my back out and learn to rely on others. To ask for help and, even bigger, be willing to RECEIVE assistance.

I needed to learn that I don’t have to do it all alone.

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I was afraid to ask for help.

These thoughts swirled in my head:

  • I didn’t want to put others out
  • That I wasn’t hurt *enough* to need help
  • That it would inconvenience my friends to drive me places
  • I was embarrassed by how much in pain I was in
  • I felt badly because I thought i would feel guilty for having others help me
  • I thought I should just be able to grin and bear it and take of it myself

Really, I just didn’t want to make the people I care about have to reschedule their days or go out of their way. I felt badly for being what I thought was an inconvenience.

And then I realized. It was OKAY.

That’s why we have people who care about us. They *want* to help us when we are in pain and having problems. And sometimes the only way to move forward, to heal, is by RELYING on others.

You can’t do it alone. You shouldn’t have to.

You don’t need to wait for a back injury to ask for assistance.

We can only get ahead in life when we let others help to pick us up. Elsa can’t shine without letting her sister Anna in. Similarly, we can’t be the Kings and Queens of our own lives without letting others lend a helping hand. If we try to do it alone, we will fail. We only reach success when we let others help us.

For those of us who are givers, this can be hard. We will do whatever we can to assist YOU, but when comes to our own journey we think “we’re not important.” We don’t ask for what we need. We try to go it alone.

Alone is a lonely place to be. Don’t be there.

It’s OKAY to ask for help.

You’ll get there faster with it. In fact, you won’tย reach your destination without it.

Can you be brave enough to reach out when you need it? To let others help to lift you up?

It’s great to be a giver, but sometimes we need to remember to slow down and be the receiver.

Ask for help.

And accept it gracefully.

It may be scary, but you need it to get ahead.

I sure did. And I am so grateful for all the people who helped me on my path. So so so grateful. I love them all and am so appreciative that they helped me, even when I struggled to find the words to accurately ask for what I needed. Thank you all!

I am feeling much better as a result.





  • Rachel @ RachelMcMichael.com

    October 20, 2015 at 7:36 am

    Yes! I know exactly how you feel – and this is so encouraging. I loved when you said “Thatโ€™s why we have people who care about us. They *want* to help us when we are in pain and having problems. And sometimes the only way to move forward, to heal, is by RELYING on others.”

  • Amanda

    October 20, 2015 at 4:16 pm

    Asking for help is so hard. I also feel bad asking someone to go out of their way. But you are SO right. We can’t do it alone. Thank you for the encouragement. I hope your back is feeling better <3

  • Jenna

    October 21, 2015 at 1:36 pm

    Oh I’m sorry! I hate to hear that you were in so much pain but I love that you found the bravery to ask for help. I’m really awful at knowing when I need to ask and letting things get past my grasp. So proud of you!

  • Chrissy @ Snacking in Sneakers

    October 22, 2015 at 6:21 pm

    Asking for help is so hard sometimes but so helpful – plus it gives others a chance to give to us! I have been much more forthcoming with this the past year (since the baby was born and I realized life got crazy, quick) and it’s been really helpful.