There’s No One Size Fits All
There’s no one size fits all.
There’s not even a one size fits most.
We think there is. We try to pretend that there is. You’ll see it on our social media and in all of our “talk.”
But we don’t really walk the walk…..
When it comes to our yoga, our running, our blogs, our families, our careers, our actual day-to-day real life experiences….
No matter how much we praise everyone’s uniqueness. We sing Lady Gaga’s “Born This Way” at the top of our lungs in our car. But then we go and try to fit everything into a mold.
The mold that says:
- I’m supposed to weight xyz
- I need to make this amount of money
- Triangle pose can ONLY be practiced this way
- MUST EAT (Paleo/Gluten-Free/Organic/XYZ) because that’s the only way
- Marriage happens at x time
- Our kids are going to come on our schedule instead of waiting for nature
- A job has to look a certain way
- I could go on and on and on.
This past week I have been overwhelmed with the comparisons. With the insecurity. With the wish to be the same. To do something they way you “think” it should be done. Regardless of how you feel in your heart. Because of a wish to blend in. To be popular. To be successful like so-and-so….. This wish for same-ness…..
But we aren’t the same.
It’s not my way or the highway.
It’s my way and not your way and that’s totally cool.
But being us. Being here with what’s happening. Putting your own words out there. Finding your own brand. Figuring out your own passion. Even just figuring out your best way in the given moment to practice triangle pose.
That takes bravery.
Because it is scary y’all.
And it is going to feel awkward as you know what.
You’re going to feel exposed. Naked. Alone. Confused. Anxious. Overwhelmed.
The idea of walking into the unknown is petrifying. But don’t shy away from that fear. That discomfort.
But every day YOU are in the unknown. Because you are not me. I am not you. My path is not your path. I can show you thinks. I can share my experiences. But your path is all you.
And this is unique for each and every one of us.
And when you start to walk down your path. Instead of taking the path you THINK “is less taken”, or the path you believe “leads to success.” Your own path is all yours. And you may have some steps that are almooooost exactly the same as so and so’s.
You can run the marathon in exactly the same amount of time as I do. We can seemingly start at the same place and end at the exact same place. Running at, what first appears, to be the exact same time….But that doesn’t mean we took the same path. Our gait is different. Maybe I took a long water break. Maybe you walk-ran for a few miles. Maybe I took a giant sprint to the finish line. Both our races are completely different, no matter how similar they seem.
It is the same with our lives. Do not fear your differentness. Do not fear your uniques. But truly let it shine out. Maybe it seems similar to others. Do not fear that. Do not try to be “weird” or unique to fit a type. Similarly, do not try to blend in, to tow the line because you think that is what you are supposed to do.
Just do you. And the rest will fall into place. (Click to tweet.)
But it may be scary at first. Regularly. Often.
Because who genuinely and authentically presents themselves to the world? Hardly anyone.
Dare to break that mold.
Dare to be you.
Dare to walk through the discomfort.
Dare to walk through the ease.
Dare to walk through the highs.
Dare to walk through the lows.
Dare to walk through the ho-hums.
Dare to walk, run, skip, crawl, lie down, cartwheel, and dance through life.
Just make sure you’re doing you along the journey. Honoring your soul. Honoring your you.
Because as Dr. Seuss said–“you are you that is truer than true and there is no one alive who is youer than you.”
So stay with you. ALWAYS.
The world needs YOU. You have a duty to be that you. No matter how hard it may be.
Walt Whitman famously said “We were together. I forget the rest.” I would say, to truly make this statement happen one must first say “You were there. I forget the rest.” Because without YOU, there can be no WE. There’s just me.
And that would sure be lonely.
So be you. For you. For ME. For everybody.
We need you!