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Be brave


I had a disheartening experience this week, wherein I was told that I am too positive, too friendly, and too kind.

I could let this destroy me.

I could let this be an opportunity to embrace insecurity and self-doubt.

I could let one other person’s opinion of my compassion bring me down.


I could use it to be more authentically me.

I can decide to embrace confidence, embrace joy, embrace me.

Sometimes, to be kind in this world, it takes bravery.

A member of the Daily Love Mastery group recently told me, “People are not used to seeing acceptance and happiness as part of what life can offer us!”

So true.

It is easier to choose to complain, to choose gossip, to choose negativity, to choose fear.

Being brave is hard. Being authentic. Being happy. Being warm, accepting, comforting. Those emotions can be difficult for many to handle.  Negativity can be a security blanket.

But it’s not mine.

I will continue to shy away from meanness. I will choose NOT to sit at the table with the mean girls. I will find the table that is big enough for all who wish to sit.

I will embrace openness. I will embrace the unknown. I will embrace happiness. I will embrace compassion. I will embrace friendliness. And I will be compassionate, positive, and loving to others.  Because it is who I am. It’s just authentically me.

And I can only hope that, someday, those who disagree, who don’t understand, or hide behind negativity or meanness, will realize that they, too, hold the key to their own happiness.  It’s called loving oneself.

I’m gonna keep loving me.

And I wish each and every one of you love and happiness. Because we all deserve it. But true happiness comes from within. And it takes bravery to keep loving you when you are surrounded by others who are not yet on the same path of compassion.  But once you learn to love you first, you can truly be kind and loving towards others.



  • Crystal H

    August 5, 2014 at 8:07 am

    For every person that is out there that thinks that you are “too nice”, there are probably 100 more people that wish that they were more like you. You are a ray of sunshine and I wish that I knew more people like you. I wish I could be more like you. I find it hard not to stress and be angry or worry about so many different things. You are always so positive and just happy. You make me want to be better and you make me feel better about myself….and heck, we don’t even know each other that well. 🙂

    and on a less sappy note….LOVE the banner!!

  • Nila

    August 5, 2014 at 8:49 am

    I love this post! It is true that it requires more bravery to be kind and loving. Why is that?

  • Terence Young

    August 5, 2014 at 9:07 am

    Another excellent post Lora!! So true , we must love ourselves first before we can love others. Just this past week my minister was speaking and she said she was asked what’s the biggest problem in the world today. She said she heard spirit say through her words that our biggest problem is we don’t love ourselves enough… 🙂

    Thanks for sharing your light with the world…

    Train Healthy Be Wealthy

  • Betsy

    August 5, 2014 at 11:30 am

    There is no such thing as too nice, too kind, or too friendly. Just keep being you!

  • Run DMT

    August 5, 2014 at 12:32 pm

    Great post! You have no idea how timely this post is for me. I am also to positive and full of life which can put people off. Their opinion of me is theirs to deal with and not my problem. I prefer will continue to be me and shine.

  • hydee

    August 5, 2014 at 9:03 pm

    Laura – You are an inspiration and I say that with all sincerity! I must confess I fall into that mean girl attitude more than I would like and I justify it by saying I’m not as bad as the others. I am going to do better and I know your blog will help keep me on track!